I created Pare to protect my mom — and everyone over 40 — from the uncertainty of modern apps. With verified profiles, criminal record checks, and a culture of care, Pare brings back what dating should be: real and human.
- Emma, Founder & CEO
How Pare Works
Apply
Join our curated community of verified singles over 40.
Verify
Complete ID and background verification.
Connect
Get matched with quality connections.
Meet
Go on real dates with real people.
Your Personal Date Concierge
Real support. Real guidance. Real peace of mind.
From outfit questions to rescheduling, Emma handles the details—so you can focus on the connection.
Your time is
non-negotiable.
We've stripped away the gamification. No boosts, no super-likes, no noise. Just tools designed to move you from a match to a meeting in the real world.
Café Date?
Thomas has suggested a time. View details to confirm.
Saturday, Oct 14
2:00 PM • Le Pain Quotidien
This is dating
without compromise.
Personal onboarding, verified members, and a strict no-ghosting policy, complete with a date concierge to manage every detail.
The Pare Protocol
Criminal Record Checks
Government-issued checks so you know the person you're meeting has been vetted.
Learn More →Government ID Verification
Real people only. Every member verifies their identity before joining.
Learn More →Scam & Fraud Monitoring
Pattern-based monitoring and education designed to protect 40+ daters.
Learn More →Deepfake Prevention
Photo and video checks that help catch AI-generated or manipulated content.
Learn More →Date Concierge
Help choosing venues, confirming details, and rescheduling when life happens.
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